recently, i was chatting with one of my best friend's about love and relationships and how me and the boyfriend were going at it over nothing! literally the smallest things were bothering us and that was adding a stress on us. i opened my email to some words of wisdom from this wifey and momma of two:

"it's hard. life is hard. two completely different people trying to be one is hard. relationships are hard, they are work and anyone who says different is wrong. one thing that has helped us (referring to her relationship) in the past is to just love each other. and i know that seems easier said than done but it works. you both need to agree to just love each other. so when he does something that drives you crazy and vice versa...just take a minute, take a step back and just love. let the reason you guys fell in love triumph anything else. it works. you have to learn to suck things up and give in. and i say you because we as women, we don't budge. we hold grudges, we throw low blows, we have attitudes, we want want want! it's what we do. it's not wrong, it's us. but it doesn't work when you are trying to untie and be one with another person. our selfish attitude doesn't work. it took me a very long time to learn that and i'm still learning. it took a lot for me to give in, for me to apologize and especially for me to bite my tongue. i am not perfect in any way but i try and so does he and i think that's why we have made it so long. just love each other!"