the perfect saturday

well this weekend was just marvelous...it was low key, full of catching up with my besties, beautiful scenery, great convo, loads of love and some vino! one of my best friends came down from boston for some much needed "tripod" catching up (there are 3 of us, so we're like a tripod...get it?). we had big plans for a big weekend of catching up, drinking, and partying; we caught up...1 out of 3 ain't bad right? we didn't fail at tackling the three by choice, we really tried hard; we got decked out, hit the town, had a few sips of wine at dinner and called it a night...we tried. saturday we woke up to breakfast in bed by the boyfriend, damn he's good! it was super legit too; homemade stuffed french toast from scratch with strawberries and whipped cream. around 11 am the tripod headed out for a much needed catch up date and it was perfection. side note, life gets busy and 2 of us live in nyc while the other is in boston so it's not everyday we get to sit down together. but we make it our mission to meet up as much as we can and when we do we pick up right where we left off and spend hours (no exaggeration) on filling each other in on literally everything! and after we were done catching up the boyfriends met us and it was so amazing watching them bond because well...they're stuck with us. "if you wanna be my lover you gotta get with my friends".

this time i chose our date spot and not to toot my horn it was a freaking perfect. we went to wave hill a real life "secret garden" right in my backyard here in the riverdale section of the bronx; it is what i imagine heaven to look and feel like. you couldn't even imagine experiencing the beauty and tranquility that wave hill provides so your guaranteed to be blown away if you visit. there are gardens on top of gardens hidden between secret trails and behind greenhouses all just waiting to be discovered. it is the perfect place for any occasion but i would only share it with a loved one be it a parent, sibling, partner, and/or friend because it really is just that special. fellas, take your ladies here i promise she will love you forever (so long as you aren't an asshole)! wave hill is the perfect place for love and a proposal (::cough cough:: ::louder cough cough::). do yourself the favor and enjoy the beauty of nature, it's worth it!  

"just love each other"

recently, i was chatting with one of my best friend's about love and relationships and how me and the boyfriend were going at it over nothing! literally the smallest things were bothering us and that was adding a stress on us. i opened my email to some words of wisdom from this wifey and momma of two:

"it's hard. life is hard. two completely different people trying to be one is hard. relationships are hard, they are work and anyone who says different is wrong. one thing that has helped us (referring to her relationship) in the past is to just love each other. and i know that seems easier said than done but it works. you both need to agree to just love each other. so when he does something that drives you crazy and vice versa...just take a minute, take a step back and just love. let the reason you guys fell in love triumph anything else. it works. you have to learn to suck things up and give in. and i say you because we as women, we don't budge. we hold grudges, we throw low blows, we have attitudes, we want want want! it's what we do. it's not wrong, it's us. but it doesn't work when you are trying to untie and be one with another person. our selfish attitude doesn't work. it took me a very long time to learn that and i'm still learning. it took a lot for me to give in, for me to apologize and especially for me to bite my tongue. i am not perfect in any way but i try and so does he and i think that's why we have made it so long. just love each other!"

 

15 Things Every Guy Should Always Do For His Woman

1. open doors
2. put on her coat
3. walk on the street side of the side walk
4. take her on dates even after years of being together
5. surprise her
6. give her your jacket when it's cold out
7. take pictures of her when she's not looking
8. love her family as much as she does
9. don't just sign cards, write in them
10. fight for her
11. tell her she's beautiful
12. tell her you love her
13. show her you love her
14. push her to do better than her best
15. be the best man you can be for her
that is all. simple. don't settle for less.