i have a serious bone to pick! i'm not sure if i should be picking the bone with the men out there (not all men i know this, trust me) or with women who make men think their behavior is acceptable. me and my girlfriends talk about this all the time: the assholes out there make it hard for the good guys and the no standard girls make it hard for the girls with self worth. i really feel like men in nyc have it so easy when it comes to dating, i can't even call it courting because that is damn near nonexistent. men have a shit load of women to choose from and sadly a lot of the women in nyc don't have standards and they settle for asshole behavior which makes the men feel like it's acceptable and they carry it over to the next lady and if the next lady does have standards and respect for herself she's considered a crazy bitch.

but seriously:

because i don't want to bang you after one date i'm a prude?

because i'm not okay with you calling me to "hang out" after you're drunk in da club?

because i think it's super sketchy that you are on the phone every second we're together yet take 4 hours to reply to my text all the time?

because i don't believe the girl you're "in a relationship" with on facebook is your "cousin" but you put that up there because she wanted to make some dude jealous; not okay any way you look at it?

because i think you smacking another girls ass is disrespectful rather than "just a joke"?

because i'm not going to drop the plans i have to go to your house and watch a movie because your friends bailed on you?

because if we had plans for 7pm and i don't hear from you until 9am the next i tell you to fuck off?

because i think the little things matter?

because i want you to ask me how my day was?

because i think it would be amazing for you to tell me to pack my bags you've got a weekend planned for us to just get away from the city?

because i won't cook for you after a week of dating when all i make for myself is coffee and bowls of cereal?

it's like these men either just don't give a shit, are dumb as rocks, or think doing something nice for a deserving girl is going to make her feel like they're getting married. relax dude it's not that serious! do i look like i'm ready to get married yet?? i can't even stick to a bikini time diet let alone a wedding dress diet, that's like 100 times more intense! first comes love then comes marriage then comes a baby in a baby carriage...baby carriage oh hell no i'm not ready for stretch marks hell no!!! so chill out boys, it's okay to play nice, it actually works to your advantage. ugh it's so frustrating!!

dudes in nyc don't even have to be creative it's become acceptable for every date to consist of "let's grab drinks after work" that's great every once in a while but come on put in some work dude! shit throw a movie in there, pick up a calendar of free events in nyc, buy a can of beer throw it in a paper bag and sit by the water hoping the cops don't catch us...something different!

then there is freaking technology...piss me off! nobody knows how to pick up the damn phone and have a conversation, make plans, or just say hi to hear the other person's voice...nope! text message all the way. don't get me wrong i love text, i think it's a great to keep in touch for little pieces of life information but the value of a phone call is priceless!

okay now to why i really started this rant...

because i'm a crazy b for thinking after 4 months of dating exclusively that come valentine's day you'd send me flowers to the office opposed via text?

confused? please see below, an actual text message from the guy i was seeing for 4 months on valentine's day....

emoji roses are never okay

the end.

jacqueline solivan